Traci Burke – Mad Ones Real Estate, Living Her Best Life

Traci Burke – Mad Ones Real Estate, Living Her Best Life

By Sandi Tomlin-Sutker

Traci Burke is one of a rare group: born and raised in Asheville in a family who has been in the region for at least four generations. Her life and ambitions took her away and then back again, recognizing what an awesome place this is to create an extraordinary life.

SEARCHING FOR HER PASSION

“When I graduated from high school, I had no clue what I wanted to do or be.” Getting a decent job was her first goal and that landed her at Mission hospital in housekeeping. Her assignment was cleaning all the public bathrooms there. She quickly realized she wanted to do something bigger with her life. She became a nursing assistant working in labor and delivery, then took classes at AB Tech to get into the competitive LPN program. She didn’t stop there, pushing onward to become a nurse anesthetist.

The first program that accepted her was the University of New England in Maine. “I decided to go for it. I was divorced at the time and had to make the choice of uprooting myself and possibly my child (at age 13 he opted to stay here with his dad). I knew if I didn’t do it, I’d regret it and I didn’t want to get to the end of my life and have regrets!”

“The first year of working as a nurse anesthetist I made a good salary and you’d think I’d feel I’d accomplished something, but it was totally the opposite. I went through a major depression. Was this all there was to life, getting up every day to go to the hospital, pay my bills, doing something on weekends? I knew there was something else I was supposed to be doing.”

Traci had owned her first house before going to anesthesia school, decided to rent it while she was gone and realized, “the renters paid my mortgage while I was in school. I thought maybe I should do it again. I watched shows like Flip This House, etc. and learned a lot. I thought I could buy a house, remodel it and sell it for a profit . . . and I did. Unfortunately, she also did it at the very worst possible time, 2007-2008. It took about 10 years to sell it at the right price and along the way she learned a lot of valuable lessons, especially that she needed to educate herself about real estate investing, mortgage and financing options, and how to spot and close a deal. She joined a local real estate investors’ group and right away met the person who would become her mentor and private coach.

REMODELING HER LIFE

Real estate was a major breakthrough for Traci. “I had finally found my passion! I also managed to find and marry a wonderful man in the midst of all that. We both bring our strengths to the table.” The relationship also brought a new child into her life. Together they adopted a weeks-old baby girl about seven years ago. Life has been, as she describes it, fun and challenging ever since.

Traci and Doug’s portfolio now includes several single family and multi-family properties, renovated into beautiful long-term rentals, as well as several properties they have built on desirable West Asheville lots. Traci became a real estate agent and then a Broker in Charge, running her own West Asheville brokerage called Mad Ones. In their spare time, Traci and Doug coach others on how to become real estate investors, building  passive income for themselves and their legacies. 

The belief that is out there in Buncombe County is that there are not any bargains left, especially in West Asheville. “I think my stubborn nature says, ‘don’t tell me I can’t, I’ll prove you wrong!’ My coach always told me there are opportunities everywhere, in every season. I see the world as a glass half full; I refuse to focus on the negative. I want to live an extraordinary life, have extraordinary relationships and give back in a big way. To do that you have to be successful.”

She puts a lot of intentional effort into seeing life this way. Traci has developed tools to help keep her on the path. One of them is to run through a list, every morning before getting out of bed, of all she has to be thankful for. She also does a lot of inspirational reading and realizes if she can help just one person live a better life she will be successful. “You know we have so much in this country, but many are focused on what they don’t have. It’s little things like having fresh water to drink, a bed to sleep in, and a roof over our heads. We are truly blessed.”

WHY THE MAD ONES?

“The name is based on the well-known quote from Jack Kerouac”, Traci explains. “It’s really about my philosophy of life. I’m not willing to settle for a mediocre life! I want to suck the marrow out of life you could say! I want to live my version of extraordinary and help others live their version. I can help do that through real estate if they are willing to listen and put in the work. My partner came up with the name and when I heard it, I just knew that it describes who I am and how I live my life. I wanted a memorable name that makes people ask questions . . . and it does!”

As a brokerage, they work with buyers and sellers of all kinds and walks of life. As a team they are each crazy about life, real estate, and the people in our Asheville community. Traci’s story is one of perseverance, influencing people around her to go after an extraordinary life. In a way, learning how to build a life and legacy you are proud of, not being afraid to remodel from time to time.

Monthly Community meeting
at Mad Ones
Last Tuesday of every month at 6 pm
717 Haywood Road
Asheville, NC 28806
Food/drinks provided
Featured speaker
[email protected]
Phone: 828-222-7327

The Practitioners of Feel Good!

The Practitioners of Feel Good!

When the going gets tough, the creatives get more creative! It’s profoundly evident that artists, musicians and writers are juiced up and acting out the inspirations this pandemic has evoked, by sharing their various talents over social media just to make us feel better during our lockdown. I feel blessed that we dwell among these practitioners of feel-good. It’s as if all of them simultaneously began to brainstorm ways they could bring comfort to our community, as a way to ease fear and boredom that seemed to quickly and firmly take hold. Watching live stream concerts and the like, has now become ‘regular TV viewing.’

Cellist and songwriter sublime, Melissa Hyman and her husband, Ryan the “lion-hearted” Furstenberg, were the first artists I saw performing on “Facebook Live” from their dining room. With playful penguin props and jovial jive, their viewership reached into the hundreds. Others like troubadour extraordinaire Blake Elledge and local music giant Josh Blake collaborated with The Orange Peel to raise money for local musicians by introducing nightly “Quarantine Concerts,” before the “stay home/stay safe” ordinance took effect and the series had to be suspended. Since then, a plethora of musicians including yours truly, have put ourselves out there, offering virtual live stream concerts on Facebook, Instagram and YouTube, as a way to do our best to counterbalance the need to entertain with our need to make money to live on during a time when all of us have lost all our gig dates.

Since bands are no longer able to get together and rehearse much less do shows together, music makers are getting mighty innovative and energized in order to keep up their connections and co-ops. Video sharing platforms are being utilized which allow musicians to video record themselves playing or singing parts of a composition from their home studios and/or computers, and then send those files electronically onto the next person, so they can add their parts. This has become as popular as live stream concerts! Jason DeCristafaro, “Asheville’s Patron Saint of Musicians,” has successfully kept weekly jazz music nights alive by collaborating in this way. Once he marries each track together, he uploads the completed video on social media and YouTube for all who choose to watch. Each musician and vocalist donates their time and talent to benefit the venues that sponsored these showcases and that Jason hopes to resume hosting, very soon!

CaroMia Tiller chooses original songs of other area singer/songwriters, puts her own magic on them, asks others to do the same, and uses the same kind of video recording and sharing app that Jason does, to submit the finished video for the public and the songwriter to view and enjoy. With hundreds of views for each one so far, this concept is well “liked” not only because she’s brilliant, but for the way this lovingly honors her peer songsmiths!

There are couples and soloists who stage live stream concerts from home, as a way to establish their own ‘residencies’ as it were, taking over time slots for weekly or nightly concerts. Caitlin Krisko and her live-in guitarist boyfriend, Aaron Austin from The Broadcast, play each Thursday evening, a 30 minute set starting at 6:30pm called “Jamdemic.” Newcomer, bassist and guitarist Kim Butler plays a weekly happy hour called “Facemask Fridays” where she reminds everyone to BYOB!  With my Corona Premier beer and lime within reach, I do my bi-weekly Saturday evening happy hour, called Silver Linings Live Streams, and Nikki Talley does “Porch Sessions” every morning complete with coffee, guitar, banjo, and song!

“Keep Music Live Project” is an online streaming of music featuring Asheville acts and was spearheaded by bassist and Girls Rock Asheville faculty member, and creator of Streamside House Concerts, Sally Sparks. Singer Songwriter, Hannah Kaminer organized a service called “Music for Quarantine.” She designed it so the public can order a personal virtual concert and conversation from a list of participating local music artists, to celebrate a special occasion for a loved one they are unable to be with during this outbreak.

Now, much to our surprise and delight, there are those in our sphere whose hidden talents have suddenly surfaced due to this unforeseen pandemic. Singer Songwriter Leigh Glass, along with Echo Mountain Recording Studio Manager, Jessica Tomasin and vocalist, Kendra Penland, merged to bring us their original character-friends, “Memaw, Granny and Abuela.” They hilariously improv their way through posted video conference calls, and we are laughing all the while. The women-of-a-certain-age they portray, are decked out in full southern regalia, with support hose, wigs, warts, and all. They scuttlebutt  through hot topics like religion, pornography and liquor brands, all while giving each other delirious and mad cap, unsolicited advice about love and life.

Ashley Heath, known as the ‘hardest working musician in Asheville,’ compiles videos texted by area musicians telling ‘stupid jokes’ and posts them on her social media profile pages. Heath is now offering singing telegrams too, where she’ll call a recipient of your choice, and sing them a special song for any occasion! Lee Barker, a farmer and charcoal portraitist from Polk County started a group called “Plague Artists 2020” where artists and crafts people can post and share photos of their works as a way to get to know one another. In just a week, Lee had garnered hundreds of members from all over the globe!

As a way to assist and ease the mental strain that this pandemic creates on many levels, singer songwriter, Asher Leigh and others started a group called “Pandemic Expressions.” It’s a place to share art, conversation and opportunity. The intention of this group is creating, celebrating and supporting. It meets an extremely important need in our community.

Finally and notably, I’d like to give a huge shout out to local musician and singer, Pam Jones (The Business, Dirty Logic) as well as accordionist and Gypsy Jazz trobairitz, Sparrow Pants. The two of them have been making protective masks for the community at large as well as health care professionals in our area and in other parts of the country too.  Thank you!

In closing I share with you an encouraging quote I meditate on daily that comes from my favorite spiritual guru, Abraham- Hicks: Normal will never be what it was; it’s going to be so much better.

Peggy Ratusz is a vocal coach, song interpreter, and songwriter. For vocal coaching email her at [email protected]

Jean Ann’s Journey – The Goal is to Giggle

Jean Ann’s Journey – The Goal is to Giggle

By Jean Ann Taylor

Life isn’t always funny. In fact, sometimes it’s painful, depressing, stressful, disappointing, or overwhelming. It’s easy to fall into a blackhole of hopelessness when we’re feeling down; however, filling our lives with laughter can turn our outlook on life around.

It sounds so simple: just laugh more often. Children are great at it. They laugh over two hundred times each day, adults may only laugh twenty times a day. This is in part because children find humor in things adults find upsetting. Children laugh at absurdities, ridiculousness, surprises, and unexpected messes. Step in a mud puddle? Hilarious! Drop your crayons on the floor? Pretend you’re a bulldozer and scoop them up.

There are many valid reasons to add laughter to your life. A good, solid chuckle can make us healthier by lowering our blood pressure, reducing stress hormones, and increasing the circulation of antibodies in our blood stream—helping us to resist infection. The muscles in our face and body stretch, and we breathe harder, which sends more oxygen to our tissues. Laughing tightens the tummy and strengthens our heart. After a good, hard belly laugh, you may feel like you just had a good, hard workout!

While both men and women benefit by laughter, there is a difference in how the sexes process funniness. I remember as children, my younger brother enjoyed watching The Three Stooges. As he sat cross-legged in front of the television, he laughed hysterically at scenes I could only roll my eyes at. I usually left the room when that show was on. I’ve found that men can find humor in knocking heads while women find it foolish. April Fools jokes and pranks are another example of very personal preferences. What is comical to one person may be insulting to another. To know what tickles your funny bone, you must first know yourself. Our sense of humor is as individual as our eye color, so look for people who laugh at the same things you find funny. 

Adulthood means we are consumed with responsibilities: work, bills, repairs, deadlines, and appointments. An unexpected and spontaneous giggle can help us to lighten up and not take ourselves so seriously. Laughter changes us. It can help turn our perspective from gloom to glee. Laughing is also contagious. When we smile at the person who is stuck in a long line with us, the acknowledgement that we are in this situation together helps ease the frustration. When faced with a large work-task, finding humor with coworkers can make a workload seem more manageable. In relationships, laughing can help alleviate an argument when a difficult situation has seemed to come to an impasse. Laughing together is a shared emotion that results in creating a bond with each other.

For your health and well-being, find ways to include more laughter in your life. For me, a YouTube video of babies laughing gets me every time. Turn off the “news” and watch a funny sit-com like Cheers or Big Bang Theory. Let a seven-year-old impress you with her plethora of knock-knock jokes. Whatever it takes, try to get more giggle in your gig.

Happiness is laughing with a toddler about something that makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.”

Please send your thoughts and ideas to me at [email protected]

Deserved Selfishness

Deserved Selfishness

By Jill Long

As women, we tend to expend a lot of energy taking care of other people and things, from our homes to our children, parents, and friends. Women typically take on the care-taker role and may forget to take care of themselves. With the holidays quickly approaching, and the extra demands that go with them, it may be time to figure out where we fit in this picture. “Deserved selfishness” is not just a habit to practice this time of year, but to be practiced throughout the year.

We may place ourselves last on the list and since the list is never-ending, we may never get the time we deserve. Sometimes, even if we plan time for ourselves, we may find ourselves sacrificing that time to do something someone else wants or needs us to do. It seems so easy to break a promise of time for ourselves but we would never think of missing an appointment or commitment to someone else. Why is the appointment with someone else more important than one with yourself?

Maybe it’s time to take a look at where we place ourselves on the list and practice some “deserved selfishness.”  We are all taught from an early age not to be selfish. We are asked to share our toys, let others’ take their turn, or share a room with a sibling.  Maybe we need to take a look at our definition of “selfish”.  Maybe we think that taking care of ourselves is being selfish. The definition of selfishness is being overly concerned with self to the detriment of others. So being selfish means I shouldn’t do something for myself that can make someone else’s life harder, not that I shouldn’t sometimes put myself first. So why do we feel we are being selfish to take care of ourselves?

I think that maybe a more appropriate term for what we do is called “self-sacrificing.”  Self-sacrificing is giving up oneself for the benefit of others. If we are self-sacrificing, we may tend to be angry, depressed, anxious, or tired because we are not nourishing ourselves or our souls. Furthermore, we lose sight of who we are. Ongoing self-sacrificing will make us sick, either physically, mentally, or both. There is not a medical description for this kind of sickness, but I believe that ongoing self-sacrifice manifests itself in illness. We are not nourishing our mind, body, or spirit when we give up ourselves for the benefit of others.

If we have to have a term to describe putting ourselves first, can we agree to look at it not as selfishness but as “deserved selfishness?”  Can we use the term “deserved selfishness” to mean taking care of oneself so that we have the physical, mental, and emotional energy to care for others?  We do not have to feel guilty or bad about taking care of ourselves and should not feel selfish when we do so.

Some have self-sacrificed so long, raising children or caring for elderly parents, that we do not know how to take care of ourselves in a way that replenishes us. We may be able to sleep and feel rested, but we cannot re-energize our souls solely with sleep. We need time to self-reflect, relax and take care of our body’s physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs.

What have you purposefully done for yourself lately? When was the last time you set your intention to do something that replenishes you? So many people say, “I don’t have time,” but if you truly look at the time you have, you can create time for “deserved selfishness.”  Make an appointment with yourself, don’t allow yourself to cancel it, and don’t allow someone else to take priority over it.

“Deserved selfishness” is most helpful if practiced regularly. We need to give ourselves time to re-energize on a daily basis. Different types of personalities need varying amounts of time to re-energize the mind, body, and spirit. You are the best judge of how much time and how often it takes to feel more connected and refreshed. Again, this is not about sleep. So how do you figure out your own dynamic with “deserved selfishness?” Start with making a list of things you like to do. If you have a hard time thinking of these things, because it’s been so long since you took time for yourself, think of what you used to enjoy or what you see in others’ enjoyment. Practice giving yourself the time to do these during the week. Have things on your list that only take a few minutes as well as things that take a few hours, or day. Give back to yourself according to what makes you feel better. Also start a list of things you’d like to do but haven’t tried yet. Start a new hobby, reach out and do volunteer work, or stay home and read a book. Think of what you enjoyed as a child and expand on that.

I encourage you to include exercise in these lists. It doesn’t have to be the latest trend, but something you enjoy that moves your body. Exercise is a good way to create new energy and provide “deserved” time for yourself. Gentle exercise could include going outside for a brisk walk. Being in nature is a truly grounding activity, and feeling grounding is a necessary part of self-care. Whatever activity you choose, do it with purpose. Set an intention that this activity will be meaningful, fulfilling, and empowering.  “Deserved selfishness” can become a way of life if you accept it as time to reflect, re-energize, refocus, and relax. In doing so we can be more present with others, feel less stressed, and be healthier. 

Jill Long, M.A. Ed.
Licensed Professional Counselor

 

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